The F Word: A post about Friendship
Lily Pebbles, Liv Purvis and Valentine’s Day have definitely inspired this post. Notably, Lily, Liv and I are all in different phases of our lives hence I thought I would throw in my two cents on this very important topical topic.
I do not have very many close friends, and I prefer it that way. The friends I consider close are those I can open up to with little regard for the “walls” I have created. I have many walls. I think we all do. I think that coming to the realization that anyone who considers themselves an open book is in complete denial of the reality of their lives. Thankfully I do not hear anyone these days describing themselves as such. It may be a product of how narrow my friend group has become, or maybe a reaction to the evolution of social media, but I am grateful for this shift.
I tend to connect with my friends quite seldom but even so, I consider them close friends as I know I can count on them if ever the need arises. It is not ideal, but such is life. We all have so much going on - careers, relationships, etc. – it has just become our norm as of the last couple of years to meet less frequently. Truth be told, it all started once I met my husband. It was around this time that most of my close female friends found their significant others. We should have done a better job at integrating our loved ones with our friendship group, but hindsight is 20/20. Years later, I have come to the realization that these relationships are essential to keeping my sanity and to maintaining a healthy connection with my husband. The thing is, even though I would like to be able to connect with my husband at every level, it simply cannot happen. He is amazing at a lot of things, but girl talk is not one of them, and that is okay. I should not expect this of him as it is not fair to him.
This was a recent revelation. It came out of a very long conversation with a good friend. We had not connected in many years. What was meant to be a short coffee meet up turned into a three hour long catch up. It was amazing. I knew it would be good to catch up I just did not expect to walk way feeling lighter and enlightened, if you will. As I write this I think I sound a bit corny, but it is true and it is a testament to how much I have missed such interactions.
Interpersonal conversation has always been one of my favorite things in life, more so than good sushi, which I think most of us can agree is saying a lot. So, why oh why have I let these important facets of life fall by the wayside? Life? Excuses? All of the above? I hope that this time next year, I can post something relating to how far we’ve come. Cheers to next year.
What is your take on friendships? What are some of your most memorable conversations with friends?